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“Every couple should have a weekly date night after children.” Heard that before? Well now that Jonathan is going to work full time and I’m grown up now and realize that you have to MAKE time to do what you want to do, we feel that it is important. However, what constitutes as a date. Just going somewhere alone? Does running needed errands and going to a thrift store count? I don’t know. Not very romantic. It would easier to have those if there was money to spend. Does a movie count, I mean you don’t even talk during a movie, at least if you are looking for a cheap pair of pants there is some interaction. We are too cheap for popcorn but we have been known to bring in random items such as honey baked ham sandwiches, pistachios, subway, and a beer to the dollar theatre. Yep, we are cheap at times.
Maybe finding something in common such as going to a shooting range, dancing lessons, or taking turns finding something different. Again, the money thing, we gotta get out of the hole and we need another vehicle soon, preferably a four door truck or SUV that will hold the whole family (big dog too) and not kill my back when I get Evalyn out. Luckily my Dad is letting us borrow one of his cars for a while. Thanks! Does going to look at vehicles count as a date if we hold hands and kiss during a test drive? We are interested in the shooting lessons so we are going to check into it, maybe we can go 2x per month or so.
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Finding consistent sitters is a whole other story. If we have to pay for someone that’s even less we can spend. We are coupon people, not the crazy kind no offense, but Athens always has great coupon books and we love them! My best sitter here, and my closest code red person, is about to get married and move to Atlanta. She’s a country girl, I’m kinda hoping she comes back soon cause she is a good friend and I’m going to miss her a lot.
Back to date night….. I’ll get back to you. Recommendations welcomed.
After Martha goes to bed, Chris and I sometimes sit in the garage, drink beer, and talk. That sounds so redneck, but we get a lot of talking done out there and we enjoy it! I just can't wait for the heat to subside.
ReplyDeleteA weekly date night that involves spending money is just not feasible for us. But as you point out, it is just about committing to make time for each other. It doesn't matter what you do. Going to a thrift store counts, in my mind, if you have a good time together. Going on a test drive counts (although you might make the salesman uncomfortable). I'm anti-gun so I can't speak to that part. ;)
ReplyDeleteWe don't have sitters, but we try once a week, after Emilie goes to bed, just spending the evening together. No laptops. Sometimes no movies or TV, either -- just talking or playing a game together because we're actually friends and we LIKE each other. Ha. Even that is tough at times since I do my work at night, but I do think it's important. And then we are trying once a month or so to have my parents watch Emilie and do something a little bigger like dinner and a movie.
Of course since we have been married for 16 years, I think it's different from a couple who has had a child after just a little while (like you guys :)). We had a LOT of good quality time alone together, so we are OK with sacrificing that when necessary.
On the practical side, I am signed up for every coupon/deal thing I find -- Groupon, LivingSocial, etc. and would suggest it for you if you haven't already. There have been cheap movie tickets, good deals on restaurants, massages, plays, lots of fun things to do. Of course I know Athens already has a lot inexpensive things to do too.
Have you looked for a babysitting co-op? I have heard of these, where you basically join up with other parents and take turns babysitting each others' kids. You earn "credits" when you watch their kids and vice versa. Of course it would be more difficult for you guys to do but hey, it's a thought.
Thanks you two!
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